Glenn's blog

My father was the most sexist man I've ever known. I wouldn't choose to keep and honour his name for that reason. However, my name -despite where it came from- is the name I've had since birth. It's my identity, just like everything about me. Half of me is my dad and that I can't change no matter how much I disagree with his world views. So I choose to keep my name because it is who I am. I'm not going to erase my past just because I marry a man. How undignified is it to spend days standing in line at every institution that you have any dealings with to make sure that everyone knows you now have a new owner. That said, I think hyphenated names are even more annoying. It's like saying oh hey, I like to make a stance but not really. Give me a longer leash but still keep me on a chain. While the husband just sits at home with his beer on his belly never having to even consider the horrible ordeal of having to change his name or identity just because he married some woman. Why would anyone expect him to change his identity? That would just be silly and WAY too much trouble for nothing!